It is said that one should not compare his/her life with the apparent lives of others. Whenever you are expecting a guest; you clean, organize, and sort out the house.

The lives, characteristic traits, and relationships of others is also presented to you in an organized and neat manner, and their reality is different from what you see. So, instead of gazing at others and comparing them with your spouse, respect the individual you have chosen, make him/her feel significant, and admire your spouse.

In the framework of marriage, comparison deals a blow against man's significance and harms the woman's emotions and feelings. In fact, if a man compares his wife with others he shatters her emotions, and if a woman compares her husband with others, she breaks her spouse's importance and significance.

Pay a close look at your fingers. Your fingers are unique, such that no one else in the entire universe has the same wrinkles on the top of their fingers. If you accept this difference, how come you do not realize that your spouse is different to your friend's spouse? Have you ever paid attention to the differences of flowers and their different colors? Have you ever focused on the differences of smell and taste of different foods and meals? If you pay further attention, you come to realize that differences make life more beautiful. When you speak of the human world and the relations among humans, personal differences are the most important factor which you should realize and accept. As you maintain a number of differences in your habits, interests, and lifestyle in comparison to your peers, your spouse is also no exception to this rule.

The first message which is conveyed to your spouse, by comparison of your spouse to others is that your spouse is unacceptable for you and has not fulfilled your expectations. This marks the beginning of the downward spiral of family.

Last week, it was said that one of the important features of Iranian families is their religious beliefs. Some sociologists also point out the historical nature of the family. God Almighty, in creation of Adam and Eve, in fact created family life.

Meanwhile, the first factor which attracted Adam and Eve toward each other, was Adam's outlook toward Eve. He was attracted to her because of her kindness, and God placed this principle as the basis for establishment of relations and communications between them. This humane bond has existed prior to emergence of sexual instinct. Hence, the divine religion of Islam has put establishment of family beyond human's sexual instinct. In fact, the main goal behind establishment of families in the viewpoint of the divine religion of Islam is to shape and maintain peace of mind in man and woman.

The lives of Adam and Eve originated good and bad developments. Adam and Eve, upon eating the forbidden fruit in Heaven, embarked life in this world. The principle of creation of mankind is tied to the familial life of Adam and Eve. After the birth of children of this couple, deep-rooted social issues emerge in this house, leading to a battle between the couple's sons, Abel and Cain, and this battle and peace continues, and human history is shaped.

The other important point is the birth of the family's child. Thereafter, all humans were born in families, and their first phase in existence was within the family and familial house.

Meanwhile, the Iranian families' religious beliefs and historical nature, play decisive roles in granting identity to Iranian nationals. Iranians have always made every effort to maintain their families and to reinforce familial bonds, considering this task as part of their ethical and religious duties.

Delicate facts are embedded in the relationship of spouses; focus on which brings about and leads to sustainability of families. Men, in the midst of their lives need a moment of peace and calm to be able to continue their path and to fulfill their duties. This moment of peace comes when he embarks upon the kind and emotional atmosphere of his family, feeling an emotional bond with his wife and sensing unity with her. This feeling grants comfort and peace of mind to him.

Meanwhile, the woman, within her life faces turbulences which harm her delicate soul. In the midst of these turbulences, she needs to seek help from her reliable husband. In fact, the emotional bond between spouses shape the familial environment, leading to the married couple's peace of mind.

The presence of a reliable and understanding spouse, grants peace to the individual and enables them to successfully put behind the crises and upheavals, which they encounter in their lives.

MR/SS